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Does the dumper miss dumpee?

by Daniel Conn
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We all know dumpee often have a hard time getting over their ex but does the dumper miss the dumpee?

Breakups are never easy, and when you are the one that got dumped, then it is even more painful.

And you can’t help but wonder, does the dumper miss the dumpee?

Yes, the dumper does actually miss the dumpee. Even though they are the ones who decided to end the relationship, they still take time to fully get over the dumpee.

Not only do they miss their ex, but many a time, they also regret breaking up and even try to get back with them.

In this article, we’ll explore this question in detail and see whether or not the dumper ever really misses the dumpee.

So let’s get started!

Does The Dumper Miss Dumpee?

Yes, the dumper does miss dumpee. No matter what the ground for break up might be when you have shared a part of your life with someone, you would miss them when they are gone.

Even if you had several problems in your relationship, there must have been some good moments, too, and the dumper would surely miss those.

It’s almost impossible not to miss someone with whom you have spent a part of your life.

If you have been together for more than a few weeks, then there is no way the dumper won’t miss you or think about you after the breakup.

When you are in a relationship, your partner becomes a part of your life,, and a breakup feels like someone took away a piece of your life. The longer the relationship, the more painful the breakup would be.

The dumper might have thought that breaking up would be better for them and their life; they might not have the same feelings for their ex that they used to, but they will still miss the dumpee and remember them from time to time.

When does dumper miss dumpee?

Dumper can start missing dumpee as soon as a week after a breakup, but in some cases, it can take as long as a month to all the way up to 5-6 months to start missing the dumpee.

They might ingore their feelings for some time and think they have gotten over the dumpee, but it is going to hit them sooner or later.

After a time, dumpers start to miss their ex, though it could be for a moment, but they do miss dumpee.

If the relationship was serious and lasted for more than a few months, then the dumper will start missing the dumpee within a couple of days of the breakup.

But if it was a casual relationship or a short fling, it might take them a little longer to miss their ex, but they will miss the dumpee typically about 1 month after the breakup, but it can even take up to 5-6 months in some cases.

But when they are the ones that ended the relationship, why would they miss the dumpee?

They feel lonely

Dumpers often miss dumpees when they feel lonely. This is because the dumper has usually formed a strong attachment to the dumpee during the relationship.

Even though the dumper may have been the one to initiate the breakup, they still often feel a strong sense of loss and loneliness after the relationship has ended. 

This is because they are no longer able to share their life with the person they were once so close to.

The dumper may also miss the dumpee’s companionship and the feeling of being loved and wanted.

Even if there were many problems in their relationship, there must have been some great parts, too, and the dumper is bound to miss them.

The dumper might think their life will get better after breaking up, but that is often not the case, and they become sad and miserable in a lot of cases.

If the love was real from their side, they would miss the dumpee irrespective of what happened between them.

They feel guilty

When someone breaks up with their significant other, they may feel guilty about the pain they are causing.

This guilt can lead to them missing the person they dumped, even though they were the ones who ended the relationship. 

This is because, even though the dumper may have had valid reasons for breaking up, they still see the dumpee as a good person they care for.

The dumper may also miss the dumpee because they were a source of support and companionship, and the dumper may now feel alone.

The guilt would be much stronger if the reason for the breakup was not solid enough, and they would find it really hard to move on in this case.

They realize their mistake.

When a dumper breaks up with a dumpee, they may not realize the mistake they have made until some time has passed. This is because, at the moment, they may be feeling relief from the situation, or they may be focused on other things.

However, over time, they may start to miss the dumpee and realize that they made a mistake in breaking up with them.

There are a few reasons why this may happen.

The dumper may have had unrealistic expectations for the relationship. They may have thought that it would be perfect and that there would be no problems. However, when they started to experience the normal ups and downs of a relationship, they may have become disappointed and decided to end things.

At that moment, they might have felt that they were doing the right thing, but with some time, they would realize what a big mistake it was, and then the regret phase starts.

They might have broken up after coming under the influence of their friends or someone else, and again, in this case, also, the regret kicks in soon after the breakup.

They would probably even try getting back with dumpee when they realize their mistake, but that doesn’t always work out.

How to tell if the dumper misses you

So if you the dumpee in your relationship, then it must be really hard for you to get over it, and you probably still miss the dumper.

But as you must know by now, your dumper is not in a much better position either, and they are most probably also missing you.

Here is how you can tell if your dumper misses you


It is a common misconception that if someone breaks up with their partner, they must necessarily be over them and have moved on.

However, this is often not the case. Just because somebody breaks up with somebody does not mean that they have stopped caring for them or that they no longer have any feelings for them.

In fact, it is often quite the opposite. Feelings can’t just go away like that, and it often takes the dumper months or even years to get over their ex completely.

Dumpee, of course, goes through a lot after a breakup. They find themselves feeling hurt, rejected, and confused. They may feel like they were not good enough or that they did something wrong.

But the dumpers are no better either. They also feel lonely and confused and sometimes even regret their decision.

The dumper must have blocked you from social media and messaging apps after the breakup, but if you find that they have unblocked you after some time, it is a clear sign that they miss you and probably regret their decision to break up with you.

They like your photos on your FB or Instagram.

Social media can be a helpful barometer when it comes to understanding whether or not your ex still has feelings for you.

If they like or comment on your latest posts, it’s a good sign that they’re still invested in your life and what you’re up to.

This can be a way of keeping tabs on you without having to contact you directly, and for some people, that’s a comfort zone.

If you notice that your ex is engaging with you more than usual on social media, it’s a sign that they may be missing you and what you had together.

You get a birthday wish from them.

When we are in a relationship with someone, we often hope that the feeling is mutual. We want to know that our partner feels the same way about us as we do about them.

One way to gauge this is by the way they treat us on days that are special to us, like our birthday. If they are attentive and ensure we have a happy day, it can be a sign that they still have strong feelings for us. 

However, if they ignore our birthday or act cold towards us, it may be a sign that they have moved on and are no longer interested in the relationship.

So if your ex wishes you on your birthday, especially if you were not in contact after the breakup, then it shows that they miss you and probably regret breaking up with you.

What should you do if you miss your dumper?

If you got dumped by your partner recently, you might find it difficult to get over your ex, especially if you were together for a long time.

But you must accept the fact that you are not together anymore; there is no point crying over it, and you will have to move on.

If you miss your dumper, then you should give these things a try.

Spend time with your family

It is important to spend time with your family when you are missing your dumper. This is because your family can provide you with the support and understanding you need during this difficult time.

Additionally, spending time with your family can help you to feel more connected to them and can help to strengthen your relationships.

When you get dumped, you might feel that nobody loves you, but spending time with your family and friends will freshen up your mood and will help you realize that there are people who love you, and there is no point crying over someone who dont.

Focus on your work

When you are focused on your work, you may find that you do not miss your dumper.

This is because you are so focused on what you are doing that you do not notice your surroundings.

This is a good way to avoid missing your ex in the short term.

If you are lying on your bed all day thinking about your ex, then this is the best method for you to get your life back on track.

Start focusing on your work, start working out and get your life in order, and this will help you get over your breakup.

Discard their gifts.

When you are in the process of healing from a broken relationship,, or you are not able to get over your ex, it is often advised to get rid of their stuff.

This means that if your dumper gifted you something, you should either discard it or put it somewhere you dont see it.

The logic behind this is that the gift has memories attached to them, and every time you see them, it reminds you of your ex and the time that you spent together.

So if you are having a hard time getting over your ex, then you should either discard their gift and belongings or put them somewhere out of sight.

The Bottom Line:

Getting dumped by someone you once loved is probably the most painful experience in the whole universe. Wherever you find the word “dump,” there is a story behind it and a heartbreak.

But what most people dont know is that the dumpers aren’t usually immune to the pain and loneliness that comes after a breakup.

The dumpers also miss their ex, and sometimes they also regret their decision to break up. If you are dumped and miss your ex, then you should make changes to your schedule, focus your energy on work and spend time with people you love, like your friends and family.

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.