Rejections are never fun, and they become even worse when they come from someone who was once chasing you or was into you.
On the whole, rejection is a fact of life, and you need to learn to deal with it. The only way to get rid of it is to learn to deal with it.
So, you have to take some time and find out what you can do to make the rejection not hurt so much.
The first thing you need to do is to stop reacting to the rejection. The truth is, you’re not going to change anything. You’re not going to get back into their good graces, and you’re not going to be able to change the rejection in most situations.
But the question is, why would a guy who was into you, who was pursuing you would, then reject you?
In this article, we will tell you what could be the reasons behind this and what you should do in such situations.
What does it mean if he pursued me and then rejected me?
So he was into you, he pursued you but then out of nowhere he rejected you, and now you dont know why he did that. was it your fault? And what should you do now?
There could be various reasons behind this, and it most likely is not your fault.
Here are some of the possible reasons behind him doing it:
He is over you
It is possible that he was genuinely interested in you at some point, which is why he was pursuing you in the first place, but now he might have gotten over you.
If he was pursuing you for a long time, then it is possible that he got over you by the time you got interested in him and decided to reject you.
Sometimes people get feelings for a person that is genuine but that don’t last for a long time, and it could be the case in your situation too.
It’s not anyone’s fault; it’s just that he doesn’t feel the same for you anymore, which you should also accept and try to move on.
He thinks you two are not compatible.
He might have developed feelings for you when he first met you, which is why he pursued or chased you.
But as he got to spend more time with you, he might have realized that you two are not compatible with each other.
It is very common for guys to fall for girls at first sight, even before they know anything about them, and later when they spend some time together, they realize that they are not compatible with each other.
Some might get this realization quite early, even before they start dating, and others might get it after months or even years of dating.
It could be possible that when he fell for you, he didn’t know you that well, but as he got to know you better, he realized that you two are just not right for each other.
That doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you; it’s just that he thinks you two are not meant to be together.
He wanted to see if he could get you
He might have done it all for his ego.
A lot of time, guys chase girls or pursue them just to see if they can get them, and they have no intention of actually being in a relationship.
Both men and women do this. It’s an ego boost for them. They like to know that they can have you, but don’t necessarily want to take it any further.
Some guys like the chase. Sometimes they will pursue a girl, and once they feel they have got her, they will just move on to the next one.
He might have seen you as a challenge and pursued you to see if he could win you over, and once he saw some interest from your side, his ego was satisfied, which is why he rejected you.
If this is the case in your situation, then you should consider yourself lucky because you dont really want to be with someone who has this kind of outlook toward life and relationships.
He found someone else.
Another possible reason could be that He pursued you because he was genuinely interested in you, but the chase was so long that he found someone else which led him to reject you.
Neither of you are at fault here. It’s just that he found someone else while pursuing you and started going out with them, because of which he rejected you.
when someone is actively looking to be in a relationship, it’s very common for them to approach or pursue multiple people at a time, and this could have happened in your case as well.
If this is what has happened in your situation, then just remember that it’s not your fault, and maybe you were not meant to be together.
He is confused.
It could also be possible that he is confused about you.
He felt attracted towards you and that is why he pursued you in the first place, but as he started talking to you more, he might have realized that maybe he is not that into you.
Feelings are not always straightforward; sometimes, they can be quite confusing too.
One moment you might feel you love someone moments later, you might feel the opposite.
This could be the case in your situation as well. He might be confused about his feelings for you and dont really know if he wants to take things forward or not.
He’s afraid of commitments.
It could be possible that he really liked you, which is why he pursued you, but when he realized things were going well and that you were interested in him too and things might get serious, he got afraid.
It is very common for men to get afraid of relationships or commitments.
It could be because of some bad experience he has had in his past with someone else, which somehow reminded him of your current situation.
Another possible reason is that he might like you so much that he is afraid of losing you, and he is afraid that you might eventually break up with him.
It might sound stupid, but it is actually very common.
If you feel that he is afraid of commitment or if he is afraid of losing you, then you should take things slow, talk to him about it and make him comfortable before moving forward.
What should you do if someone pursued you and then rejected you?
Honestly, the best thing to do after any rejection is to just move on and go ahead with your life.
You need to understand that rejection, in most cases, has nothing to do with you, and you should not let it bother you.
If a guy has pursued you and then rejected you, then it’s best that you just get over it and move on and dont spend too much time analyzing the situation cause it’s not worth it.
If it is something that really bothers you, then you should just go ahead and ask him why he did that, and you will get your answer.
If he gives you some genuine reasons, then you can think about it and try to improve yourself, but if he is not able to give a good reason for it, then he is not worth your time, and you should just move on and dont let this rejection bring you down.
What does it mean if he led me on and then rejected me?
When a guy leads you on and rejects you, it can mean a few different things.
Maybe he was genuinely interested in you at one point, but for some reason, he dont feels the same anymore. It could be because of reasons like:
- He found someone else
- He is afraid of commitments
- He lost interest in you
- He thinks you two are not compatible
Or it could also mean that he never really had feelings for you and was just trying to see if he could get you, or maybe he is a jerk who enjoys playing with others’ emotions.
Whatever the reason may be, it’s best that you dont waste more of your time on him and try to move on and find someone who appreciates you and your feelings.
The bottom line:
Rejections are never easy to take, and when it comes from someone who was once interested in you or pursuing you, it can be even more devastating.
Forever you will be wondering what you did wrong and what else you could have done. But that’s the beauty of life. We can’t always figure out why things happen. We just have to accept it and move on. But you don’t have to let this rejection get to you.
You can learn to deal with it.
You can learn to let go of the rejection and move on.
You can learn to accept the fact that this is how the world works.
Dont let rejection define your worth, and find someone who cares for you and appreciates having you in his life.