he talks to me in person but doesn't text

he talks to me in person but doesn’t text

by Daniel Conn
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So, you really like this guy, and he seems to like you too. He always talks to you in person but doesn’t text; what could it mean?

It could be a very confusing situation to deal with when a guy talks to you in person and shows interest but never text you.

There could be two possibilities here,

Maybe he likes you, and that shows when he meets you in person, but he doesn’t text because, for some reason, maybe he avoids texting on purpose to make you miss him, or he perhaps doesn’t have time for texting, or he just doesn’t like texting at all.

The other possibility is that he is just not into you, and you are making things up in your head. Maybe he talks to you in person just to be polite and doesn’t have any interest in you; that is why he isn’t texting you.

In this article, we will talk about both of these possibilities in detail and will help you understand which one applies to your situation and will also tell you what you should be doing in such a situation.

Why does he talks to me in person but doesn’t text?

Either he likes you and avoids texting you for some reason, or he just doesn’t like you in the first place, so there is no question of texting. 

There could be various reasons behind him not texting you even if he likes you, and we will discuss them, but first, it should be clear whether he likes you or not.

How do you know if he likes you or not?

Just because he talks to you in person doesn’t mean he likes you or wants to take things further.

He could be talking to you because he wants to be friends, or maybe he talks to you just to be polite.

You should try to think about how your in-person interactions went to know if he likes you or not.

If you are in the same class or you work at the same place, then it’s obvious that he would talk to you in person, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that he is interested in you.

Do you have good conversations, or is it just some small talk? Does he also talk with others like he talks to you? Does he make some efforts to spend time with you?

These are the questions that you should be asking yourself to know if he really likes you or not.

If you think he likes you and you can feel it when he talks to you in person, but he never texts you, what could be the reason behind it?

There could be a few different reasons behind him not texting you, maybe he is not texting you on purpose to make you miss him( which is working if you are reading this article), or he is too busy to text you, or maybe he is not someone who likes to text.

What should you do if he talks to you in person but doesn’t text?

There isn’t much that you can do in a situation like this. If you know that he likes you, then you shouldn’t worry too much about texting as things will eventually work out for you.

If you want to start talking to him over text, then there is no harm in starting the conversation. It’s completely okay to send the first text and get things rolling.

Since you guys already like each other and you have talked to him in person, there is no reason why you shouldn’t text him.

Maybe reply to his stories or send him a meme related to something you guys have talked about and just get the conversation started.

Perhaps he is shy or not sure how to start a conversation over text, and your initiation could help make things easier for him.

If he is interested in you, he will reciprocate and would probably start texting you, but even if he still doesn’t do it, for any reason, there is no need to worry.

You should continue talking to him person whenever you meet and maybe even ask him out if that is something you want.

What does it mean when a guy doesn’t text you?

There could be a lot of reasons why a guy would talk to you in person but would not text you at all.

The most common reasons behind guys not texting are listed below

He is shy

The most common reason behind guys not texting would be that they are shy or nervous to initiate a conversation.

Most guys get nervous when they have to send a text to a girl, especially a girl that they really like.

He is probably scared of sending the first text, so if you like him, you should definitely try initiating the text so that he gets more comfortable.

He is busy

Another reason behind him not texting you could be that he is too busy.

Maybe he is working for long hours or spends time with his friends or family, and doesn’t get enough time to think of texting someone.

Some of us are always online and can send texts even while we are busy with other things, but some people just don’t use their phones when they are working or sending time with their friends or family, and he could be one of them.

He don’t like texting

In this age of social media, we assume everyone from our generation likes texting or posting pictures or stories, but that’s not true.

A lot of people just don’t like using social media or texting and keep their usage at a bare minimum.

He could be one of them, and maybe he doesn’t like texting.

He is interested in you, which is why he talks to you in person, but he is not someone who likes texting, so he never texted you.

He is doing it on purpose.

Another possible reason could be that he is doing it on purpose. Some guys like to play games with girls, and he could be one of them.

He might be trying to avoid texting you to make you more interested in him and make you miss him, which I guess is working for him if you are reading this article.

If you like him and think he is also interested in you, then you should just ask him out and take things forward. There is no point playing these silly games.

Do guys not text on purpose?

Some guys avoid texting on purpose. They would talk to you in person and show interest but would avoid texting you as they think it would make you more interested in them.

This is not something most guys do, but some do think like that.

Some guys are scared of initiating conversation with girls, especially if they really like them, and that is why they avoid sending texts.

The Bottom Line:

If he talks to you in person but doesn’t text, then there could be two possibilities: either he is not interested in you, or if he is interested, then there could be a few different reasons behind him not texting you.

Maybe he is too busy to text, he is not very active on social media or texting apps, or he may be doing it purposefully to make you more interested in him. The only way to find out is to ask him.

If you are interested in him, then there is no harm in initiating the texts or even asking him out.

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.