My boyfriend kissed another girl – What should I do?

by Daniel Conn
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When you are in a relationship, it’s important to trust your partner. But what do you do when you catch your boyfriend kissing another girl?

Finding out that your partner has kissed someone else can be a heart-wrenching experience.

It can bring up feelings of anger, betrayal, and confusion, and you may be left wondering what to do next.

As a relationship expert, I understand the challenges that come with this situation, and I want to help.

In this article, we’ll explore the options available to you and what steps you can take to find a resolution.

Whether you choose to work through the issue with your partner or decide to move on, it’s important to prioritize your own emotional well-being.

Let’s dive in and find the best path forward for you.

What should I do if my boyfriend kissed another girl?

No one likes to be cheated on, but it’s, unfortunately, a very common occurrence.

It can be an extremely difficult situation to deal with, and sometimes you just dont know whom to talk to about it and what to do about it.

Honestly, there is no easy way out of this situation; you will have to take the hard path and talk it through, and then make the call on whether this relationship can continue or not.

It’s easy to make mistakes in such a situation that you might regret later.

I recommend you calm down and think twice before making any decision and only do it after analyzing the whole situation properly.

Here is what I would recommend you do in order to process and deal with this situation in an effective way:

Listen to him and try to understand his side of the story

If your boyfriend kissed another girl, it most likely means that he doesn’t value you and the relationship, but in some cases, it might be possible that he has some valid explanation.

So, it is important to talk to your boyfriend about what happened and why it made you feel uncomfortable. Only he can explain his intentions, and you can decide if the relationship is worth saving.

Listen to him without presumptions and give him a chance to explain himself.

Obviously, there is no excuse for cheating, but in some cases, there might be some genuine reason behind it which you might want to listen to.

If he gives you a reason, like he did it by mistake or he was drunk, then he is just making a fool of you. If a man is serious about a relationship and truly values his partner, then he won’t cheat on her no matter what.

But you should give him a chance to speak, and if he gives you a good reason like the girl was drunk or tried to make a move on him and he stopped her immediately, then you can think about forgiving him.

Dont suppress your emotions.

You must be expressing countless emotions right now, and it’s important to express them instead of suppressing them.

Suppressing your emotions will only make you more stressed out and will affect your mental health in the long run.

Let your emotions out, if you are feeling angry, talk it out, if you are feeling sad, share it with someone you trust. Whatever emotions you are feeling, try to express them and try to talk about them to someone like a close friend or family member, or if you dont want to share anything with them, then you should get in touch with a therapist.

Opening up about your emotions will give you clarity and will make it easier for you to deal with the situation in a healthy way.

Assess your relationship and underlying issues.

Often times cheating is a result of some deep-rooted issue in the relationship.

You should assess your relationship properly to understand what could be the reason behind this and if there is any future left for the relationship.

Was he actually serious about the relationship, or was he just playing you from the start?

These are the question you have to answer yourself by assessing your relationship thoroughly, and the answers will be in front of you.

If you think the relationship was actually going well until the kiss, then it’s on you to decide whether you want to continue it or not.

If you are considering forgiving him, then you should also consider what your future will be like with him. Will you be able to trust him again? If you can’t get yourself to trust him fully again, then there is no point in getting back into that relationship, as it won’t work out.

So Just sit down and analyze your relationship properly and think where it can go, and decide whether or not you really want to continue in it.

Prioritize your emotional well-being.

In a tough situation like this, it’s extremely crucial that you prioritize your emotional health and well-being over everything else.

No matter what decision you make here, make sure it makes you happy.

If you think you really love the guy and want to give him another chance, do it if you think that will make you happy. Dont listen to anyone else, not even me. Do what feels right to you.

If you think talking to him again will make you sad or angry and would affect your emotional well-being, then dont do it.

Do what feels right to you.

Analyze the situation and your feelings and make the choice that you think will make you happy cause that is what matters at the at of the day.

Should you stay in a relationship with a boyfriend who has kissed another girl?

The question of whether or not you should be in a relationship with a boyfriend who has kissed another girl is a complicated one and something that only you can answer for yourself.

There is no right or wrong answer.

However, it’s important to carefully evaluate the situation and consider the factors that are most important to you before making a decision.

Talk to him, and try to evaluate the situation properly before jumping to a decision.

Ultimately, it’s important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to make decisions that align with your values and priorities.

If you choose to stay in the relationship, it may be helpful to have a difficult conversation with your partner to discuss your concerns and expectations and to take steps to rebuild trust and repair the relationship.

If you choose to leave, it’s important to do so with dignity and respect and to seek support from friends, family, or a professional therapist as needed.


In conclusion, finding out that your boyfriend has kissed another girl can be a difficult and emotional experience. It’s important to take the time to process your emotions and assess the situation before making any decisions.

Listen to your boyfriend and try to understand his side of the story, but prioritize your own emotional well-being above all else. Consider underlying issues in the relationship, assess the future of the relationship, and make a decision that feels right to you. Remember, what matters most is your own happiness and emotional well-being.

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.