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She never mentions her boyfriend [Meaning]

by Daniel Conn
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So this girl you know is in a relationship, but she never mentions her boyfriend, and now you are wondering what it could mean?

You ask what she did last night, and she always says “nothing.” Did she break up? Did he leave her? Or could it mean she is interested in you, which is why she avoids talking about him?

If she never mentions her boyfriend, It could mean a lot of different things. Maybe there is some problem in her relationship, or maybe she is insecure about her relationship or it could also mean that she is interested in you.

It could also simply mean that she’s focused on other things right now and doesn’t want to waste her time discussing it with you.

So you see, it’s hard to point out the exact reason behind her not mentioning her boyfriend based on this information alone, but we will try to help you find the answer to this question by the end of this article.

So let’s get started.

What does it mean if she never mentions her boyfriend?

If she never mentions her boyfriend, it could mean many things; maybe there is some problem with the relationship, maybe she is insecure about it, or perhaps she is interested in you and dont want to put you off by talking about her boyfriend.

But this could also mean that she just dont want to talk about her relationship. Contrary to popular belief, it is perfectly normal for a girl, not to mention her boyfriend, and it doesn’t necessarily need to signify anything.

It is quite normal for a girl not to want to bring up any topics related to her boyfriend during a conversation. She does not need to mention that she has a boyfriend if no one asks her about him.

However, keeping things private and withholding them as secrets have two different meanings. Private means that the girl accepts that she has a boyfriend but chooses not to talk about him all the time.

On the other hand, hiding the fact that she is in a relationship shows that she is probably interested in you or that something is wrong with her relationship.

Here is the most probable reason behind her not mentioning her boyfriend:

She is on the edge of the breakup

When she does not mention her boyfriend and tries to avoid talking about him, it can mean that there is a serious problem between the two of them.

If she is on the verge of a breakup, she will avoid talking about her relationship with others as there is no point in it.

So her not mentioning her boyfriend could mean that she might break up with him soon.

She is a flirt queen.

She is a flirt queen. That is why she never mentions her boyfriend or flirts with everyone around her, even if they happen to be committed men.

She knows that she can make everybody fall in love with her because they don’t know her true nature yet. 

And that is also the reason why she only has a few friends; they all know what she is hiding from them and keep their distance.

We all know about playboys, the guys who hit on every girl and are never serious about any relationship, but there is also a female equivalent of that: the flirt queen.

You should be careful of these girls, and if know she is already in a relationship, then you should just avoid her; there is no point wasting time on a girl like that.

She wants something from you.

It could also mean that she is deliberately trying not to talk about her boyfriend because she want something from you.

It doesn’t have to be something big. Maybe she just wants your help with some assignments or wants some help in finding a job, or needs some favor from you.

She might be thinking that mentioning her boyfriend to you would somehow reduce her chances of getting help from you.

She is insecure

There could be a number of reasons why your friend never mentions her boyfriend around you.

It could be that she feels like she needs to protect her relationship from outside influence or that she doesn’t want to give you the opportunity to judge her relationship.

This could be because she is insecure about her relationship. Maybe she thinks you would make fun of her or her boyfriend or just some other insecurity she has about the relationship, which causes her to avoid talking about her boyfriend.

 Alternatively, she may simply not want to talk about her personal life with you for any number of reasons.

Whatever the case may be, it’s important to respect her privacy and not to press her for information about her relationship if she’s not comfortable sharing.

Her boyfriend is toxic.

That girl seems to be in a relationship with someone that’s toxic. She has no idea why she can’t stand him, and there is no one she can trust enough to tell her what she needs to do.

Her boyfriend is toxic, which is why she never mentions him. She has been in a relationship with this guy for a year or half. He always meddles in her business; he always wants all the attention to himself more than talking about his relationship with her. He always makes her feel lonely and disturbed.

And she is not able to share it with anyone, and that is probably why she never mentions him.

She is into you

Another possibility is that she is into you that is why she never mentions her boyfriend.

She has made a conscious decision not to tell you about him because she does want you to be interested in her and talking about him might put you off.

She likes you, that is why she never mentions her boyfriend; she thinks that she may lose you if she tells you about her boyfriend.

She knows you like her.

She probably got the idea that you are interested in her, and that is why she is consciously avoiding mentioning her boyfriend.

Maybe she thinks that you like her and she dont wants to hurt you by talking about her boyfriend in front of you, so she avoids talking about him.

Does it mean you can hit on her?

If she is in a healthy relationship, then you should definitely not be hitting on her, and you should just move on from her.

But if she is in a toxic relationship and is about to break up soon then, you can hit on her and even ask her out.

It can get really messy if you start dating her before she sorts things out with her current boyfriend, so you should only do it if you really like her.

You can easily tell whether you are into her:

You make silly excuses to talk to her

You want to discover if you are interested in the other person enough because that will determine whether you will continue talking to them or not.

If you like her, then you will make silly excuses to talk to her. You even go out of your way to meet her.

Think about your interaction with her and analyze; if you make a lot of efforts to meet her and spend time with her, then you definitely like her.

You get anxious around her.

You will get anxious around her because you are interested in her.

You would notice that the anxiety is less when you see her at work and with friends, which are places where she can’t just disappear.

If you find yourself to be scared or anxious around her, then it also shows that you like her.

You think about her

You will daydream and get an unrealistic imagination about her. You will think that she is the perfect girl because you have been with her for a long time.

You will think that she is the one who can make your life better, who can make you happy, and who will never let you down. 

If she is on your mind throughout the day, then it is a clear sign that you are into her and you really like her.

How to Approach Her?

First of all, if she is in a healthy relationship, then you shouldn’t try to hit on her, but if you think she is in a toxic relationship and is soon to break up, then you can consider approaching her.

One of the most effective ways to approach her is not to be just another guy, which means that you should try to be unique and original in your approach.

If you don’t have anything interesting or unique, then look for something that will make you different from other guys.

One good way is by asking questions about her hobbies and interests or talking about things you have in common with her.

Avoid giving her shallow compliments about her looks because she gets it from every other guy, and you dont want to be just another guy hitting on her.

If she seems interested in talking to you, then ask her questions about herself. You can even ask if she would like to meet up with your friends later on in the evening or if she would like to go out for coffee with them.

You should also be careful when asking these questions because it might seem like you are trying too hard or making yourself seem too interesting by doing so.

Get to know her a little more

Go out of your way to be friendly with her. If she is in your neighbourhood, go by and say hi. If she is at work, talk to her on the phone or email her and ask if she has time for lunch. This will help you get to know her better and make it easier for you to approach her when the time comes.

Find out what she likes

If you want to ask someone out, or even just hang out with them, it’s important that you know what they’re interested in doing before you make the request. This will also help ensure that they invite you back again.

Make an effort with your approach:

When approaching her, whether it be asking her out or just starting up a conversation with her, make sure that you’re making an effort with your approach so that she doesn’t feel like she is  being forced into something she doesn’t want to do. Maybe even bring along some flowers as a nice gesture of appreciation for their time spent talking with you.

The Bottom Line:

Many people can have different thoughts, feelings and mind-sets that is why they hide various things or topics from others. It is better if we do not overthink about the things that we can’t control.

It is definitely tempting or tough to ignore when people hide things or lies, but that has nothing to do with you. Their behaviour and actions show who they are. Accept and believe them when they exhibit their true colours and move on with your daily life.

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.