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Should you wish your ex happy birthday during no contact?

by Daniel Conn
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It’s the day of your ex’s birthday. You find yourself wondering if you should reach out and wish them a happy birthday. You know it’s against the rules of no contact, but you can’t help but wonder if it would be the right thing to do.

After all, they were the ones for whom you could do anything. Would it be too hurtful to ignore their birthday? What if you decide to err on the side of caution and decide not to reach out?

The question of whether or not to wish your ex happy birthday during no contact can be a difficult one.

On the one hand, you may feel like you are still connected to this person and want to express your best wishes.

On the other hand, you may feel like this person is no longer a part of your life, and you don’t want to give them the satisfaction of wishing them well, especially during the no contact.

Ultimately, the decision is up to you, and you will need to weigh the pros and cons before making a decision.

Why should you not text your ex happy birthday during no contact?

If you’re currently in the no-contact period with your ex, you may be wondering if it’s okay to wish them a happy birthday. The short and simple answer is no.

Although you may be tempted to reach out to them on this special day, it’s important to resist the urge. Doing so will only set you back in your efforts to move on.

You should not text your ex happy birthday during no contact. This is a clear violation of the no contact rule, and it will only set you back in your healing process.

You will only be opening up old wounds and giving your ex a sign that you are still interested in them which will make the no context ineffective.

Texting your ex on their birthday won’t make them miss you.

When you are trying to get your ex back, it is important to remember that certain actions can actually work against you.

One of those actions is texting your ex on their birthday. While you might think that this would make them miss you, it actually does the opposite.

Instead, it just makes you look needy and desperate. If you want to make your ex miss you, the best thing to do is to not text them at all during the no-contact period. This will show them that you are strong and can live without them. 

You’re allowing your ex to reject you.

When you text your ex happy birthday during no contact, you’re giving them an opportunity to reject you.

This can be emotionally difficult to handle, so it’s important to be prepared for the possibility that your ex may not respond positively.

If you’re not prepared for this possibility, you may want to reconsider texting your ex during no contact.

You’re pretending you’re still together.

When two people break up, it can be difficult to let go of the past. Sometimes, people may try to hold on to the idea of what they had and may even pretend that they are still together. This can be done for a variety of reasons, such as not wanting to let go of the happy memories or because they are not ready to move on.

Whatever the reason, it is generally not a good idea to text them a happy birthday during the no contact period.

This can be seen as a way of trying to re-establish contact and may not be well received, and no contact will be of no use after this. 

What happens when you break the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday?

It’s your ex’s birthday. Do you break the no-contact rule to wish them a happy birthday? It’s a tough decision to make. On the one hand, you don’t want to give them the satisfaction of knowing you’re still thinking about them. On the other hand, it’s only a birthday wish. What’s the harm in that?

There are a lot of mixed feelings about the no contact rule. Some people feel that it’s a necessary step to take in order to get their ex back.

Others feel that it’s a bit too harsh and that it’s not necessary to completely cut off all communication.

However, one thing that everyone can agree on is that breaking the no-contact rule can be a very tricky business.

But what will happen if you break no contact to wish your ex a happy birthday:

The Negative Response

When you break the no contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday, you may be met with a negative response.

This is because your ex may interpret your actions as you attempting to rekindle the relationship when in reality, you may just be trying to be polite.

If you are met with a negative response, it’s best not to dwell on it and move on.

The No Response

If you decide to break the no-contact rule to wish your ex a happy birthday, you are essentially opening up a can of worms.

You are risking the possibility of getting no response, or even worse, a negative response. This can be a very difficult thing to deal with, especially if you are still not over your ex.

The Basic Response

The no contact rule is a therapeutic tool that can be used to help you heal after a breakup and can help you get your ex back.

It involves abstaining from all contact with your ex for a set period of time, usually around 30 days. This includes things like texting, emailing, social media, and even speaking to them in person. The goal is to give yourself time and space to heal without the distraction or pain of seeing your ex.

While the no-contact rule can be helpful, it’s important to remember that it’s not a cure-all. If you break the rule, you may still be able to get a basic response from your ex, but it’s important to be mindful of how this might affect your healing process.

Should I Wish My Ex Because He/she Wished Me on My Birthday?

There is no definitive answer to this question. It ultimately depends on the relationship you have with your ex and how comfortable you are with them.

If you have a good relationship with your ex and you are comfortable wishing them a happy birthday, then there is no harm in doing so. 

However, if you are not comfortable with your ex or you feel like wishing them a happy birthday would be awkward, then it is probably best to avoid doing so.

It is a common courtesy to wish someone a happy birthday, even if you are no longer in a relationship with them. If your ex wished you a happy birthday, it is polite to return the gesture.

Additionally, wishing your ex a happy birthday shows that you are still capable of being cordial and respectful, even though you are no longer together. By wishing your ex a happy birthday, you are displaying maturity and graciousness.

But things can get slightly tricky if you are in the middle of a no-contact. And in such case, it is best not to wish them as it will make them think about you even more, which is what you want in no-contact.

The Bottom Line:

All in all, it’s really up to you whether or not you want to wish your ex happy birthday during no contact. Only you know the state of mind that you’re in and how your ex is likely to react. If you think that it would help you to get closure or move on or make them feel for you again, then go for it. But if you think that it would just be a painful reminder of what you’ve lost, then it might be best to steer clear.

Generally, you should not contact your ex during no contact unless you are sure that it will not set back your progress or jeopardize your chances of getting back together. If you are unsure, it is best to err on the side of caution and refrain from contact.

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.