What Does It Mean When A Guy Calls You Adorable? 

by Daniel Conn
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When a guy calls you adorable, you might be left wondering: What could this mean?

The possibilities are many.

Is he attracted to you? Does he want to date you? Is he just fooling around? 

Or is he really being condescending?

It all boils down to a few aspects that have to be taken into consideration.

In this article, we’ll get to the meaning of all this by unpacking certain scenarios in order to assess and understand all of these aspects!

9 Possible Reasons why a guy calls you adorable

There could be a lot of different reasons behind a guy calling you adorable, we are sharing some of the most probable reasons below for you to go through and see which one applies the best to your situation.

1. He’s Finds You Cute

What action of yours prompted him to say such a thing? Were you simply standing there looking fantastic, and he couldn’t bear to hold back his thoughts?

Or, were you playing with a cute baby and therefore looked adorable by association? Was he actually meaning the baby is adorable? 

Remember, it may not mean anything more than a passing comment- especially if it was in a context of possible adorableness by association. He might find you adorable in a cute puppy sort of way.

This doesn’t quite indicate attraction, or that he wants to date you! 

2. He’s Attracted To You

An unprompted “you’re adorable” could mean that this guy was checking you out, and these words simply (perhaps accidentally) escaped his mouth.

This could have been a spontaneous, accidental compliment…or a calculated one. 

He may have been trying to see how you respond to his flattery. 

The way you responded might have given him the signal of whether to pursue. Did you act like an ice queen, or go rosy in the cheeks? 

3. He’s Teasing You

What type of person is the man in question? 

Is he the soft-hearted introspective type? Or, a chatty, extrovert, class clown?

Type A serving up a comment like that is something else. For this type of guy, such confidence doesn’t come easy.

Type B, however, can dish these comments out left, right, and center. He’s not thinking about how this is going to make you feel– he’s likely thinking of himself, or not thinking at all. 

This type of person is less prone to calculated speech. Rather,they’ll say whatever comes to mind, without much meaning behind it. 

Body language for type A might look something like this: 

  • Redness rising in the cheeks
  • Looking toward the ground in shyness
  • Looking into your eyes for a prolonged time

Body language for our extrovert fellow will look more like this:

  • Passing glances in between looking at other women 
  • Physical contact with you (and everyone else too)
  • Easy smile and laughter

These are signs of confidence that indicate his comment probably doesn’t mean much. 

4. He Means It In A Condescending Way

Is this guy on the jerk spectrum? If so, he may likely be trying to put you down. 

This kind of comment might come from a colleague or classmate who, let’s just say, thinks of himself rather highly- and wants to point out your shortcomings!

This might be obvious if the comment was dropped in a school or workplace setting in which he might have felt superior to you in intellect or skill.

If this is the case, pay no mind. It may be likely that this man is going through some self-esteem issues, and feels the need to falsely elevate himself above others so as to cushion his ego.

His body language might make this apparent:

  • Smirking at you in a tight-lipped disingenuous way (not a real smile)
  • Looking elsewhere as you’re speaking (obviously disinterested) 

5. He’s Power-Playing

This might occur in a social setting in which he wants to assert his higher status over you. It would likely come as a response to an idea you’ve shared within a group of people.

This guy might be threatened by your intellect or your social status, thereby feeling the need to show others that he holds power within this dynamic. 

Body language to suggest this comment was a power-play:

  • Laughing disingenuously 
  • Looking at others for back-up
  • Standing up straight 
  • Pushing out his chest 

These last two points are done in a bid to appear more physically powerful, mirroring his feeling of intellectual or social superiority. 

This guy might even feel embarrassed or angered by his initial feeling of inferiority to you, which led to his urge to boost his ego in this manner.

Because of this he may also appear red in the face, sweaty, or otherwise flustered. 

6. He Wants To Date You

Watch out for prolonged eye contact, closeness, and the kind of conversation he makes.

If said guy is asking about your life and interests, trying to identify similarities between you, and angling for a chance to share these commonalities- he probably wants to date you!

Body language to suggest this:

  • Focused eye contact
  • Brushing against you “accidently”
  • Positioning himself so as to command your full attention
  • Mirroring your body language

Just be watchful to see if he is using this body language with other people, or if it’s just for you!

7. He Thinks Your Actions Are Cute

At the moment in question, were you perhaps singing a cute little song, or doing a funny little dance?

Something of this nature may have prompted him to say such a thing without it having any relevance to how he feels about you physically or emotionally. 

Try to recall your actions preceding the moment: Was there anything vaguely cute about them? 

This may explain the body language that doesn’t seem to quite match the comment:

  • Friendly but not intimate closeness (friend-zone!)
  • Laughing unreservedly 
  • Looking at you just as he looks at everyone else

If this man is your crush, do not be disheartened by this analysis. This friendliness is no bad thing; many great relationships start at friendship, after all.

8. He Said It Sarcastically 

This should be obvious through the tone used. 

Was it flat and drole? Or, was it genuine and said with kindness? 

Also consider generally: Is he prone to sarcasm and snarky remarks? If so, it is very possible that he was just up to his usual gags. 

9. He’s Trying To Cheer You Up

This is a possibility if he said it to you in response to your being upset. 

If his eye contact was unsteady and flitting about, he may have just felt awkward and said it out of anxiety for the uncomfortable situation.

If he was trying to uphold steady eye contact and this was accompanied by some friendly touching (a hand on the shoulder etc.), then this is a good sign.

He either cares about you as a friend…or perhaps more. 

Getting Mixed Signals? Here’s What To Look Out For When A Guy Calls You Adorable 

There are a whole lot of things to take into consideration in order to narrow down what he may or may not have intended by this comment, such as the following:

His Reaction When He Sees You 

You may not be able to discern from the initial comment what his intentions were.

But next time you see him, analyze his reaction when he sees you! 

This can be a great clue as to his physical or emotional feelings towards you. Watch for a widening smile, focused gaze upon you, and dilated pupils. 

Compare The Way He Acts Around Other People and Women

You might still be lost as to the meaning of his comment without knowing exactly how he acts around other people and women. 

Keep a watchful eye over his interactions with others, being mindful of the body language signs and how they differ between his interactions with you and with others. 

Just make sure to not get caught out- he may likely get entirely put off if he or others suspect that you are watching his every move.

Subtlety is key! You could enlist a trusted friend to do some of the work for you. 

How He Said It

We need to consider the exact sentence in which it was used. 

Take, for example: “Wow, you’re adorable.”

Now, this could go one of two ways. 

It’s not just about the words used, but the tone as well. 

If said flatly and without intimate eye contact, this could be a total put down. Condescension central!

But, said with a tone of genuine admiration and some meaningful eye contact, this is totally a sign of something more.

“You’re so adorable when you get angry.”

Unless you and this guy are already close as friends and have established playful banterous communication, this is a bit of a red flag. 

If you were genuinely angry or upset, for him to say this majorly lacks respect. This should be considered as an intentional power-play.

However, if you are friends and this is all in good fun, he may be trying to hint at his hidden attraction for you.

“You are the most adorable thing I’ve ever seen.”

If this is said without a hint of laughter, then it is on. He means what he says.

Same goes if he said it with a warm smile and generous eye contact.

However, context is important. What you were doing to prompt such a comment is vital to discerning the meaning of it!

Time and Place 

Who was in earshot when this comment was made? 

If it was said directly in front of a group of friends for all to hear, it may be likely that he doesn’t mean much by it. 

If he did mean something by it, he wouldn’t be so open with his feelings!

If he waited for a moment of one-on-one time to say this in private, then this timing was probably calculated: He wanted to gauge your reaction, without the embarrassment of others overhearing. 

Body Language 

Body language is your greatest framework through which to analyze a scenario like this. 

Consider how the following key aspects of body language were at play when he called you adorable. 

These are the things to note…

Eyes are the windows to the soul (and maybe the heart). 

Pupils dilate at the sight of someone you are attracted to. Eye contact is the best form of silent and subtle flirting, and is the most easy to spot body language signal of a crush. 

What were his eyes doing when he dropped the comment?

Posture is corrected around a crush so as to appear physically fitter and attractive. 

Said guy might uncross his arms or legs, straighten his back, and lift his shoulders. 

When he called you adorable, think: Was he postured like the hunchback of Notre-Dame? Or was he more…Renaissance sculpture-esque? 

All of these details matter!

The mouth does more than just talk. 

If he starts to smile and laugh more than usual as you come near him, it may be that he’s trying to give off a certain impression with the intention of attracting you.

A smiling, laughing, joking person is generally more attractive than a sulking skulker. 

People also try to make their lips look appealing around people they are attracted to. Watch out for him subtly licking his lips so as to make them appear wet and luscious. 

Physical contact is a clear sign of attraction and desire. 

If this guy is always close to you, especially within a group setting, it is very likely that he has a special attraction towards you. 

If he comes in for lots of hugs, grazes past you accidently, or playfully nudges you, then these are all sure signs that he would like to see more of you. 

How exactly was he positioned at the moment in question? If it involved any of these physical cues, then it is more than likely he meant to signal his attraction for you! 

The Bottom Line 

We know that these situations can be tough. 

An ambiguous comment like this can leave you feeling flustered and confused for weeks, wondering what he may be feeling toward you…and what you might feel toward him.

This guide might not solve your puzzle, but we are certain that these pieces of advice should point you in the direction of understanding what he meant.

It might take time to work it out, but just remember: Eye contact, physical contact, context, and tone. 

These elements must all be taken into consideration for you to best understand his intentions. 

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.