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Why does she ignore me when her friends are around?

by Daniel Conn
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We’ve all been there; everything thing is going great with this girl, she is interested in you, but as soon as her friends are around, she just starts ignoring you blatantly.

It’s quite challenging to read a woman’s mind, especially during the initial phase of your relationship; sometimes, you think she is in love with you, and other times, you may think she dont even like you.

And that is when you have questions like why does she ignore me when her friends are around?

Well, there is no one correct answer to this question.

But in general, if she ignores you when her friends are around, then it could mean that she is not interested in you and talks to you just to be polite, or maybe it doesn’t have anything to do with you, and she just give more importance to her friends.

So there could be multiple different reasons behind her ignoring you when her friends are around, depending on the circumstances and the kind of relationship you share with her.

Let’s see what could be the most probable reason behind her ignoring you in front of her friends.

Why does she ignore me when her friends are around?

There could be a lot of reasons behind her ignoring you in front of her friends; maybe she is not interested in you anymore, or perhaps it doesn’t have anything to do with you, and she just like giving time and attention to her friends.

If you have not even started dating, then it’s obvious that she will ignore you or won’t give you enough importance when her friends are around.

But even if you are dating, It’s normal for a girl to ignore her boyfriend when her friends are around.

She is not being rude or unfriendly. She is just focusing on the conversation with her friends, but if you want to talk to her, you have to ask her out of the group.

You shouldn’t be so needy; just because she is talking to her friends doesn’t mean she is ignoring you or dont like you anymore so you shouldn’t overreact in such situations.

But there are some cases when she might ignore you when her friends are around.

Let’s see some potential reasons for her ignoring you

Too excited to talk to them

Maybe she is just excited to talk to her friends and enjoys talking to them.

It doesn’t have anything to do with you, she is not ignoring you intentionally, but she is so excited to talk to her friends that she might have ignored you.

If you have not even started dating, then it is more likely to happen, but it can also happen when you are in a relationship.

And if you are in a relationship with her, then her talking to her friends shouldn’t make you feel insecure. If your girlfriend’s feelings for you are strong enough to warrant a relationship, then you shouldn’t feel bad when she is spending some time with her friends.

You shouldn’t be needy and let her be with her friends for some time.

Busy with her friends and forgets about you

If your girlfriend gets too busy when her friends come around and forget about you, then it’s time to reconsider your relationship. If she’s really into her friends and they’re not interested in you, then it could be a sign that she doesn’t really want to be with you.

If she ignores your texts or calls, or if she abruptly ends conversations because she is focused on her friends, then this could be a problem.

If you feel like there is no connection between the two of you anymore, this may be the reason why. She may not even realize what she is doing, but if this is how she acts toward you, then it’s time to take a step back and evaluate what is going on in your relationship.

Maybe she feels that you are boring.

When your girlfriend is hanging out with her friends, she might ignore you because maybe you are too boring.

It’s not that she doesn’t like you anymore or dont have feelings for you. It’s just that maybe she just finds you boring and she wants to have some fun talking to her friends.

Are you always serious and never lighten up then this kind of behavior can exhaust anyone, and that doesn’t mean she dont like you. It’s just that you are boring, and she needs some time to recharge, which she gets when her friends are around.

Does not feel attracted to you anymore

If your girlfriend ignores you when she has friends around, it could be because she doesn’t feel attracted to you anymore.

Or if you are not dating yet, then it could mean that she is probably not interested in you and talks to you just to be nice.

It could also be because she has found someone else that she likes more than you. Or maybe she just doesn’t like spending time with people unless they are her friends or family members.

When this happens, it can be frustrating for both parties involved. Even if it does not last forever, it is important for both of you to discuss what is going on so that there are no misunderstandings or hurt feelings between the two of you.

How to deal with it when she is ignoring you?

It can be a difficult situation to deal with when your girlfriend ignores you around her friends.

First, you should analyze the situation and think if she is actually ignoring you or just spending some time with her friends.

If you think she is consciously ignoring you around her friends and does it multiple times, then it is definitely a problem.

Here are some things you can do to deal with it

Talk to her about it and tell her that you felt bad

If she ignores you when her friends are around, it could be because she’s embarrassed. She might feel like she has to make up for being rude and not paying attention to you.

If this is the case, then you can talk to her about it and tell her how bad you felt when she was ignoring you and ignoring your feelings.

If she is not doing it deliberately, then she would definitely try and avoid doing it again, but if she keeps doing it, then she is probably not interested in you anymore.

Avoid the temptation to ignore her back.

Avoid the temptation to ignore her back. It’s tempting, but you’ll only make matters worse. Instead, use a calm, friendly tone and ask what she needs from you at that moment.

Ignoring someone who is ignoring you might work sometimes, but most of the time, it will just make you more distant, and if that is not your intention, then it’s best that you avoid ignoring her and instead talk to her about it.

Ask yourself if she’s actually ignoring you. 

The first thing you need to ask yourself is, “Is she actually ignoring me or am I just imagining it?”

It’s normal for her to go talk to her friends and leave you alone for some time. It doesn’t necessarily mean that she is trying to ignore you.

Think about it and analyze whether she was actually ignoring you or was she just interacting with her friends normally and you are overreacting.

If you think she is actually ignoring you, and she does it often, then it could be a problem. It could mean that she is not interested in you anymore, or maybe she is upset with you for something, or perhaps some of her friends have a problem with you.

Is she ignoring you because she doesn’t want to be bothered, or is it because she’s just genuinely not interested in what you have to say?

If she just started meeting and interacting with her friends when they came, then it doesn’t really mean that she is ignoring you, and it is not wrong for her to do.

However, if she really doesn’t want to talk with you and is simply ignoring you because of the presence of other people around, then this could be a hint that there is something else going on that may need addressing.

If this is the case, then it’s important to find out what it is as soon as possible so that things can be addressed properly.

Should I give her space and let her enjoy herself with her friends?

It is normal to feel hurt when you are ignored by her. You may not be sure how to deal with it when she ignores you as soon as her friends are around.

The best way to handle this situation is to give her space and let her enjoy herself with her friends. If she wants to talk, she will talk to you later. You shouldn’t make things worse by trying too hard.

Try to avoid situations where she will be surrounded by friends or other people who spend a lot of time together. This may cause problems in your relationship if she does not want to spend time alone with you anymore.

The Bottom Line:

If she ignores you when her friends are around, it could mean a few different things. Maybe she is not interested in you anymore, or maybe it has nothing to do with you, and she just likes spending time with her friends.

It could also be the case that she likes you, but you are just boring, and when her friends are around, she just can’t help but start talking to them because it’s more fun.

About the author

Daniel Conn

Daniel has more than 7 years of experience working as a relationship and dating coach. He has helped hundreds of people find love and fix the problems in their relationships.